Mental Health America states that borderline personality disorder (BPD) is a disorder of emotion regulation affecting up to 5% of the population. Those with BPD experience symptoms of perceived or real fears of abandonment, intense mood swings, impulsivity, unstable but intense relationships, self-harming behaviors, chronic feelings of emptiness, intense anger or rage for inappropriate reasons, unstable sense of self, and dissociation or feelings of detachment. BPD is often accompanied by substance abuse or another mental illness. Many of the behaviors exhibited by someone with BPD can be difficult to understand, especially for family and friends.

Lying, Deceit and BPD

There has been much debate as to whether lying and deceit are commonplace in individuals with BPD – this has led to a stigma that has further placed those with BPD in fear of seeking treatment and support from others. Each person has unique experiences, and those with BPD each experience symptoms of BPD differently. Many researchers believe that while not every person with BPD lies, those individuals that do excessively lie give everyone else a “bad name”, further perpetuating the stigma. Why would some of these people pathologically lie, though?

Psychology Today notes that many people with BPD either don’t know they are lying, or they don’t mean to. Those with BPD often alternate between idealization and devaluation, and for someone’s object of desire, motives to fulfill those desires may take precedence over telling the truth. Additionally, someone with BPD may fear being rejected, causing them to feel the need to lie excessively if they feel it will save them from being abandoned.

Healthy Place claims that those with BPD often believe in their perceptions – even if they aren’t real – which cause them to “lie”, when they really believe it’s the truth. For example, someone with BPD may believe a person doesn’t like them and they will state that as fact, even if there is no evidence to prove this. Grasping a clearer understanding of BPD means that we may be able to understand ourselves, and others, better. Stigma and disconnection occurs when misunderstandings are taken as truth for all.

Causes of BPD

It is still unclear what causes Borderline Personality Disorder. However, research seems to suggest it is a combination of factors including:

  • Genetics
  • Brain structure and function
  • Environment – social and cultural

When to get help

Lying is just one of the symptoms that a loved one is struggling with BPD. Impulsive actions and consistent problems in relationships are also signs. Some people also struggle with recurring thoughts of self-harming behavior or suicidal tendencies. Not every person with BPD experiences every symptom, but proper diagnosis should be completed by a licensed mental health professional or team.

Treatment for BPD

Treatment for BPD mainly centers around psychotherapy, in group or one-on-one formats. Medication may be used to address other co-occurring disorders.

With the right treatment, those struggling with Borderline Personality Disorder can learn skills to cope the condition and feel better about their lives.

New Vista Behavioral Health is home to several world-renowned, California state-licensed mental health and substance abuse recovery treatment centers. If you are seeking help for borderline personality disorder and/or substance abuse, call us today at 888-316-3665 for a consultation. Don’t wait any longer to seek treatment – begin developing the tools you need to succeed today.



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