We all have past hurts. Moments of disappointment, moments where our heart was broken, and moments of sadness. If these moments are still lingering in your subconscious, you may find yourself stressed or depressed even when there is seemingly nothing to be upset over. Those feelings may come out on various levels, and you may find yourself to what appears to be overreacting to minor issues such as the traffic light taking too long; beneath the surface, your emotions are trying to release because you haven’t addressed them the way you need to yet.
A 2013 study published in the Journal of Psychosomatic Research explored the mortality rates of individuals and found that emotion suppression “may convey risk for earlier death, including death from cancer.” Several other studies have supported this notion in that bottling emotions can cause negative health consequences. If you’re seeking to release past hurts, there are several ways that you can do this:
- Write down every person that has hurt you. Give yourself a lot of time to recall the name of each person. Once you’ve done this, understand that for that person to hurt you, they must have been in a bad place themselves. Choose to forgive each person on your list. Wish them health and happiness and allow yourself to feel any emotion that comes up. Once you’ve done this, crumple the paper and throw it away, signaling the release of your anger towards these people.
- Recognize that you cannot control your past hurts, and that all you can control is what you do now.
- If possible, express your anger to the person who harmed you. This could be a wonderful way to resolve the problem. If you are no longer speaking to the person, choose to wash away the anger and feel it dissolve. It is no longer serving you.
- Stick with mantras that support letting go. “Loving myself means letting go” or “I choose how I feel, and I feel amazing” are just a couple excellent ones to go with.
Psych Central reminds us that while it can be incredibly hard to let go of pain from the past, we must not let it define our lives. Doing this is stopping us from living our true potential and recognizing what we do have. If you struggle with this, make the decision to do something about it today. Let it go.
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