Recovery is a courageous, challenging process that involves patience, hard work, and determination. One of the most vital aspects of recovery is developing a solid support system – having those around us that want us to succeed and lift us up is important for us to increase our self-confidence and motivate us to keep going. If we have family members around us that don’t support us in a way that we need, they can certainly hinder us from fully recovering. There are many ways in which family can hinder our success:
- They can enable us. Family members who allow us to continue down the path of addiction by offering us the drug or substance or by condoning our behavior are hindering our recovery. When families enable a person’s problem, they discourage their loved one from treatment.
- They can hold on to negative thoughts or feelings. People who suffer from addiction often make choices that hurt their loved ones. Family members who harbor those feelings of anger prevent themselves from being fully open to their loved one and supporting their recovery.
- They can stop communicating with us. Communication is key – we need to have reciprocating honesty with our loved ones so that everyone is on the same page. If our loved ones stop sharing their true thoughts and feelings with us, they are closing the door of open communication.
- They can feel overshadowed by our recovery. Some family members may feel that our recovery is causing them to feel neglected or ignored. When this happens, offer open communication and education, express your appreciation of their support and give them time.
There are many reasons why family may hinder our recovery, but these are just a few. Open communication, honesty, appreciation and support are all important components of a support system that is needed. If we feel as though our loved ones are not supporting us adequately, it is important for us to explain to them what we need. Those who are meant to be a part of our journey will understand and work with us to become the best version of ourselves. If you are recovering, don’t give up. There are many people that care about you and want you to recover. Keep trying and rely on the support that you have around you.
Having the right support matters for long term, total recovery. New Vista Behavioral Health offers a family of treatment providers giving exceptional care for recovery in mind, body, and spirit. Our programs are held to higher standards for providing clinical care in a range of treatment levels resulting in better outcomes. Your recovery is our goal. Start the journey today by calling us for information: 888-316-3665